omm382.personality.types

omm382.personality.types > i received an email from penpal Romey about enneagram personality types, which i knew nothing about, so off i went researching, and came up with something super fascinating about those of us who are ‘helpers’ … oh and how if we don’t have good boundaries, this lovely trait can eat us alive!

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omm381.raking.leaves

omm381.raking.leaves > how is raking leaves being sober? well, it’s like learning anything new. at first we don’t know anything. we do it wrong, we get blisters. and then we learn. then later it’s just normal it’s all normal.

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omm380.bit.by.bit

omm380.bit.by.bit > how do you do something large? the same way you do ANYTHING that’s large … you do it a day at a time. bit by bit. and boy, don’t we hate to hear that! but really, it’s how we’ve done this pandemic. we’ve done it day by day. nobody planned for it to be ‘this long’ and yet, here we are, doing it. day by day … how’s that like being sober? listen to this 2 minute audio 🙂

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omm379.psychic.load

omm379.psychic.load > ok, a psychic load is the weight of things, in your head, like the ENERGY it takes to hold something in your mind. like when you’re drinking and trying to find a way out, the noise in your head is large. and when you’re drinking and lying about it? the psychic weight is huge. and so not worth it …

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omm378.arguing.mean

omm378.arguing.mean > email from Kimba (day 22): “This podcast rang true. Yesterday my husband spent time with his side of the family and came home and accusing me of hating his family (overdrinkers all). Truth was I had a repairman coming to fix a plumbing thing under the kitchen sink, and had been waiting for the plumber for three weeks. Instead of getting into a big fight, which would have been my MO while drinking, I sat calmly (pretty calmly) and explained to him that I had already had a plan and his family plan had been last minute. He continued blah blah blah, I said we should agree to disagree and reach a compromise. It ended much better than usual. Hooray for sobriety.”

from me: it’s funny that Kimba should send me this exact email today, because as i’m sitting here, with a space heater at my feet, i was editing a little clip from that podcast she mentions, “Things That Improve (if you’re sober).”  And so today’s OMM is a 2 minute clip of this from this podcast. and it’s all about arguing. What do you think arguing really is, at its base?

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omm377.things.that.improve

omm377.things.that.improve > If you keep going, moving away from day 1, then what kinds of things will improve? If you remove the booze, and allow for the transition time for things to get better, then what changes might you expect? What can you do NOW that you can’t do when you’re drinking? We get fixated on “I haven’t run a marathon” or “I haven’t moved out of my mother’s house,” and we forget some of the basic, lovely gifts of sobriety, that we get JUST by being sober.

[this 4-minute audio is an extract from the podcast called “Things That Improve.”]

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omm376.juggling.knives

omm376.juggling.knives > we’re looking for a little boost, a bit of  dopamine, an adrenaline rush. and then we stack those on top of each other, push-push-push (up-up-up) and then we fall over into alcohol. not you. not you, of course. you’re here, doing this.
[this 3-minute is an extract from a longer podcast called “Juggling Knives.”]

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omm375.truth

omm375.truth > what happens when we’re not truthful about our drinking. we tell ourselves stories about being ‘not that bad’ or ‘it’s only on weekends’. and yet, we know something isn’t quite right. how does that kind of thinking affect us over time? the disconnect between what we want, and what we’re actually doing … this is an extract from Sober Podcast #384 “Truth.” in the full episode i go on to describe where you can find your ‘one person’ who knows what it’s like to be you … hugs hugs from me me == happy sober sunday to you. cold today. first run with long spandex. put my sleeveless shirts in a different suitcase, with my one pair of shorts and flipflops. it’s over. the official warm days of summer are over. we’re now fully into ‘snow-is-coming’ days (at least, that’s what’s happening here in Vermont).

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omm374.rebuild

omm374.rebuild > When we’re tired, then it’s easy to think that things are hopeless — so the question then becomes: how do you spend your limited emotional energy in any given day? This one-minute message (actually it’s more like three minutes) is an extract from Sober Podcast #383 “How to Rebuild Your Life.” hugs hugs from me me

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omm373.husband.part.5

omm373.husband.part.5 > i’ve been recording the AUDIO version of the amazon best selling mini-course about ‘how to quit drinking if your husband still drinks ($2 PDF version / $10 print version) > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com/husband.htm. For today’s one minute message, you’re going to hear an extract from Part 5. if you are a podcast subscriber, you will get this entire audio series as part of your subscription ($26/month, cancel any time > www.audiosober.com). if not, you can purchase these audios as a stand-alone thing ($9.99) > www.gum.co/mini-course-husband-audio. Or hey, purchase nothing and just listen to this 1-minute blurblet! hugs, belle xo

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