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Sober tools: what helps, and what doesn’t

originally published on Medium

Sober tools: what helps, and what doesn’t

(Stop fucking around with houses built out of straw)

M (day 1 sober) writes: Belle, I keep trying all these things to help me be sober and nothing works. I just spent $100 on vitamins. I’ve been to the one-day, quit-drinking workshop. I signed up for a French class. You see, I’ve always wanted to go to Paris and with all the money I’m not spending on booze, I could buy a plane ticket.

You can hear M’s thinking, you can totally see what she’s saying, and it seems logical, doesn’t it. And my reply would be: “If you are continuously sober, then yes, whatever you’re doing is working. Keep doing it.”

But if you are not continuously sober — and I mean if you reset after 2 days, or 20 days, or 200 days — then what you’re doing isn’t quite enough to keep you sober. So you add in more sober tools.

Argh, I’m on Day 1 again. I’m enrolled in French class. Why isn’t that enough?

French class is something you can hang in the space that booze used to occupy. But taking a French class is not a sober tool.

Sober tools are things that help you to be sober.

Imagine this. You’re one of the three little piggies who is building a sober house, and wolfie comes to blow your sober house down.

You build your sober house out of straw or sticks or tarps or wood, and wolfie blows it over. Maybe not right away, maybe not tomorrow, but as soon as there’s a strong wind, as soon as there’s a death or a celebration or a runaway teenager or Sheila in accounting pulls her shit again and refuses to do the cheque run before end of day on Friday.

Doesn’t take much, then wolfie is at the door. Blowing. Sober house falls down.

But let’s be real, wolfie only has to knock on the door of your house made of straw to knock it over. To the house of wood, he’ll knock, and when that doesn’t work, he’ll add in lung full of hot air and a bit of whining. Doesn’t take long.

(And really, you built a sober house out of straw? You were wishi. You’re were hoping you could do the minimum. You knew it wasn’t going to be enough.)

To the house of stone, though, the house built out of sober stones set careful on a sober cement foundation — yeah, that house — well, wolfie will knock on your door. And when that doesn’t work, he’ll try to blow you over with convincing arguments as to why you need to Drink Right Now. You’ll add in a bit more cement and wave to him through the window. He’ll look for cracks, but you’ve got double-paned glass and a bug screen.

Now this sober stone house, this is your life.

Your life is worth more than the minimum. It’s worth more than straw and tarps.

The soul of you, the essence of you, the real you that isn’t anesthetized, the real you that is empathetic and helpful and has good boundaries — that you gets deserves to be guarded in a solid stone structure.

What helps to build a wolfie-proof, stone sober house?

Advice from an architect. Talking to the girl at Home Depot about the length of the nails and what’s worked on similar projects.

Pouring a cement foundation. Going as slowly as required to not have to pour the foundation, dig it up, pour it again, and dig it up again. What a waste of time that is. Do the sober foundation, yes, but if you do it too quickly, do it too rashly, try to do it with inadequate cement, or do it while doing too many other things at the same time — well, you know what happens.

You can see this example clearly when we’re talking about cement.

The colour of the paint, and the carefully selected tri-season-blooming flowers, the stony garden walks, and the breeding fruit trees do not build a strong house.

The French classes and spin classes and yoga classes and pottery classes and vitamins don’t help you change your behaviour. They’re wonderful (and necessary and lovely) things to add to your life. They are.

But they’re not sober tools.

A sober tool is something that helps you to be sober. Not paint colour.

You want to paint the room, but you haven’t built the room. You want to choose the light fixture, but the wiring isn’t in yet. You want to focus on the details all around THE THING.

The thing you want is to be sober. And so you’re online spending hours choosing the right French class?

You just spent $100 on multivitamins because that should help you be sober?

What if you’d spent that time and that $100 on actual sober supports. You don’t though, because wolfie is a sly fucker, taunting perfectly nice people with bullshit logic like vitamins and French classes.

OK. So sober tools. They’re things that help you be sober. That would include anything that directly makes it more likely that you (a) remember that being sober is a good idea, (b) soothes irritation, (c) helps you be accountable, (d) checks in on you, (e) reminds you what you’re doing when you forget, (f) reinforces the idea of the sober foundation and why you need it because you forgot again, (g) makes it possible for you to not drink.

A French class isn’t a sober tool. Just like your drinking husband isn’t a sober support.

What works?

Treats and rewards work for being sober. Accountability works. Actual sober support works. Planning replacement drinks works. Listening to sober audios works. Reaching out works.

(Do you think you can read books about pouring cement foundations and have the book be enough? Is a one-day workshop enough? How about a forum of other people on day 1 of cement pouring? Why are you walking around outside THIS THING acting like you don’t know what to do? You know what to do. You know that if you ask for support from people who can actually support you, you can get this done. You know that if you turn and face the resources and education and accountability that sober support provides, that you’ll learn from people who’ve done it 2,593 times that you’ll save time, feel better, and have your cement poured sooner.)

And don’t get me wrong.

If you’ve built a house out of straw AND IT’S WORKING FOR YOU then keep doing what you’re doing.

But if the wind keeps blowing you over, you’ve gotta look at having some new tools.

And paint isn’t a tool.

Neither is a French class.

every minute feels like forever

from me:
a couple of days ago, i invited you to send me an email if you’d never emailed before, or never posted a comment on my blog. i specifically wanted to invite lurkers, silent-readers, keep-to-yourself types, and non-reaching-out-ers to … well, to reach out.  I said i’d pick two emails, and would send personalized audio replies from me. Here’s one of the messages i replied to:

Lis: “Belle, I’m one of those “lurkers”… I’m 16 days sober and was sitting in my office crying when your email arrived. My longest period of sobriety was 76 days — this past summer and every minute of it felt like forever. I love lemon meringue pie…”

>> listen to my audio reply here <<


Wanted.
My goal for 2017 is to send out 50 copies of my book to sympathetic doctors
, helpful therapists, open-minded social workers, and kind psychiatrists. I’d like to share this idea of support for quitting drinking (for ‘high bottom’ drinkers/for those of us who don’t go to AA). I know that most doctors don’t know anything about us. They don’t know what to say when we admit we’re over-drinking, and they don’t know what resources are available outside of AA or rehab. So I want to send 50 copies of my book out to people who help others.
There are two ways for you to be involved:

  • Sponsor a book for me to mail out [can someone sponsor 20 books?]
  • Send me the name and address of a doctor, therapist, specialist, counsellor, treatment facility — any health care professional who you know would be open to hearing about idea of online support for quitting drinking. I’ve sent out two books this week already … 48 more to go 🙂 hugs from me.

day 1: don’t toss it away

from my inbox

E (not yet a penpal): “Hi, My day 1 feels like a long time ago now. but it’s only been 146 days. and each one is easier than day 1 was. they’re not all perfect, some are hard, and on some of them, I wish I could crawl into a hole or a bottle. or a hole with a bottle. but it gets easier to resist that temptation.
My day 1 I was hungover. I had told my mom the night before that I had to quit drinking. On the way home from there, I wanted to throw myself out of the car because I had no idea how I was going to stop drinking. I thought it was too hard and I couldn’t picture my life without alcohol to help me.
so day 1 I woke up and went to work hungover…. I knew this change was happening. I was quitting. for real. and I was terrified. I was pretty sure I couldn’t do it. I called a counselling service. I wrote a message to my family telling them I was done with alcohol. I was honest with them for the first time about my drinking. I don’t really remember what I did the rest of the day. it was blurry. I know I cried a lot. I felt sad, lost, confused, scared, but deep inside there was some hope. some tiny hidden part of me believed I could do this. even though the loudest parts of me and my addiction were screaming “don’t do it! you can’t do this!”. I did it anyway …
Those first few days for me were about holding on. So I tell you now, on day 1: hold on to sobriety. even though it feels weird, and like it’s not yours, hold it. don’t toss it away for the comfort of a glass of wine. be uncomfortable, be an emotional wreck, eat a ton of sugar, hide in your room but hold on to that sobriety and soon, sooner than you think, it will feel better. soon it will feel almost normal. soon you will own that sobriety you will feel proud and confident. but you won’t for the first little while. you may feel scared and wrong and doubtful and weak. but you’re not. just hold on to sobriety until it starts to feel right. and it will.”


missing links. (get it?) you know, links you might have missed in the last few daily emails.  

  • discount link where you can get the pdf of year 1 of my blog (500+ pages). you can also read it online, it’s just easier to read it in the PDF when it’s in chronological order and all in one place.
  • the one minute message about julie
  • discount link to podcasts about prelapse. that’s my word for the time that comes before relapse. and when you know what it is, you can learn to identify it and hopefully avoid it …
  • sober is the new black is back. back in black.

 

Wednesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to SarahJune31!

Happy Day 50 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 50 to MelMel!

Happy Day 50 to Wynn!

Happy Day 50 to BalanceBeam!

Happy Day 50 to Dusty!

Happy Day 50 to Chalee!

Happy Day 50 to Sobriety Shingles!

Happy Day 50 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 50 to Lars!

Happy Day 50 to Gem64!

Happy Day 100 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 100 to Jamie-Tampa!

Happy Day 100 to Capt. Unwined!

Happy Day 100 to Freedom!

Happy Day 100 to Lerawk!

Happy Day 100 to Anjoma8801!

Happy Day 100 to Kristy!

Happy Day 100 to Lex!

Happy Day 100 to Honoring Grace!

Happy Day 100 to Boozy Betty!

Happy Day 100 to A_Sober_Canibal!

Happy Day 100 to Shannon A!

Happy Day 100 to Cisty!

Happy Day 100 to My Inside Job!

Happy Day 180 to Maverick!

Happy Day 180 to Molly Jones!

Happy Day 180 to April!

Happy Day 180 to Jaded!

Happy Day 180 to RachelB!

Happy Day 180 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 180 to AustinHappy!

Happy Day 180 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 20o to DeborahLynn!

Happy Day 20o to Lippy!

Happy Day 20o to Lua!

Happy Day 20o to MG7!

Happy Day 20o to TT!

Happy Day 20o to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 20o to Nomobsing!

Happy Day 20o to Sabrina!

Happy Day 20o to Bladerboy!

Happy Day 300 to KTWeb!

Happy Day 365 to KLC!

Happy Day 365 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 365 to Lanza!

Happy Day 365 to Chell!

Happy Day 400 to Troxy!

Happy Day 400 to Fern!

Happy Day 400 to Coco!

Happy Day 400 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 500 to Juliejean123!

Happy Day 500 to RossFSU!

Happy Day 500 to Ami!

Happy Day 500 to Sooz!

Happy Day 600 to Liberte!

Happy Day 600 to AnnieB!

Happy Day 600 to Youngernow!

Happy Day 600 to AnnaD!

Happy Day 600 to Whitbell25!

Happy Day 600 to Beck!

Happy Day 600 to Ginette!

Happy Day 600 to Lilac!

Happy Day 600 to ElizabethDC!

Happy Day 600 to Silver Birch!

Happy Day 600 to Mil!

Happy Day 600 to Seekingpeace!

Happy Day 700 to Julie-Joy’s Sister!

Happy Day 700 to AmandaPanda!

Happy Day 700 to Ms. Red!

Happy Day 700 to Fay858!

Happy Day 700 to Me-fixing-me!

Happy Day 700 to Lisa1199!

Happy Day 700 to Mythreesons!

Happy Day 700 to Honner!

Happy Day 700 to Gingerade!

Happy Day 700 to SophieSomething!

Happy Day 700 to Rache B!

Happy Day 700 to Yogayamagirl!

Happy Day 700 to Jock!

Happy Day 800 to Library Girl!

Happy Day 800 to Chace!

Happy Day 800 to Marbear!

Happy Day 900 to nomorepinot!

Happy Day 900 to Fleur!

Happy Day 1000 to Foxie!

Happy Day 1000 to Renee!

Happy Day 1000 to Battersea Park!

Happy Day 1000 to Welles!

Happy Day 1000 to Gra!

Happy Day 1000 to SusieQ!

Happy Day 1000 to IrishDee!

Happy Day 1000 to GW!

Happy Day 1000 to JustHadToHaveIt!

Happy Day 1100 to DeeN!

Happy Day 1100 to Amos!

Happy Day 1100 to FitFatFood!

Happy Day 1100 to Moore!

Happy Day 1100 to Crispy!

Happy Day 1100 to Jacques!

Happy Day 1100 to Rose!

Happy Day 1100 to Santa Cruz!

Happy Day 1100 to Phoebe!

Happy Day 1200 to Mylene!

Happy Day 1200 to Jeroen!

Happy Day 1200 to TipTree!

Happy Day 1300 to Durf11!

Happy Day 1300 to Kristi Coulter (penpal #128)!

Happy Day 1300 to C How!

Happy Day 1300 to Sarita!

Happy Day 1300 to Ingrid!

Happy Day 1400 to Rebecca!

Happy Day 1400 to Digs!

Happy Day 1400 to Carrie!

Happy Day 1500 to Amy!

 

this makes me feel better

today, let’s talk about things that make you feel better. one of the challenges of sobriety is dealing with uncomfortable feelings.

and when we feel crappy, it’s sometimes hard to remember what to DO to feel better.

For today, I would like you to put a comment on this blog post of something that you know that – when you do it – you feel better (about life, about yourself, about being sober). What one thing can you try the next time you’re having a frustrated, irritated, uncomfortable moment.

OK, I’ll begin. One thing I can do to ‘change the channel’ in my head when i’m feeling crappy is listen to music, turn it up loud, and sing along. Bonus points for singing out loud on public transit.

My blog allows anonymous comments, so you don’t have to fill in your name/email address if you don’t want to.

And to bribe you to participate, to support your sobriety, and encourage you to speak up, I will RANDOMLY select ONE comment from this blog post about 24 hrs from now, and that person will receive a sober Elevator bracelet for free.

hugs, me

Saturday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Bruna!

Happy Day 50 to Liquid Tracy!

Happy Day 50 to Ana Maria!

Happy Day 50 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 50 to Maki!

Happy Day 50 to SueW!

Happy Day 50 to Mari!

Happy Day 50 to Nevis!

Happy Day 50 to Fiona!

Happy Day 50 to Roadtosoberville!

Happy Day 50 to Putting Down the Glass!

Happy Day 50 to Lacie!

Happy Day 50 to Eily!

Happy Day 50 to NoMoreDonuts!

Happy Day 50 to Kiki71!

Happy Day 50 to Honey Bear!

Happy Day 50 to Pixie29!

Happy Day 50 to Maggie Mae!

Happy Day 50 to BG!

Happy Day 50 to i.t.!

Happy Day 50 to Imba!

Happy Day 50 to Resiliensea!

Happy Day 50 to Stillbridge!

Happy Day 50 to True.d.true!

Happy Day 50 to Elyn Jones!

Happy Day 50 to Becca1978!

Happy Day 50 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 50 to Blondie!

Happy Day 100 to Karlatta!

Happy Day 100 to Tweet!

Happy Day 100 to Ashley!

Happy Day 100 to Sohocat!

Happy Day 100 to Georgia Girl!

Happy Day 100 to Grace514!

Happy Day 100 to Indy!

Happy Day 100 to Pwhims!

Happy Day 100 to Suzanne Irene!

Happy Day 100 to Kimpossible!

Happy Day 100 to Rachele!

Happy Day 100 to RoseStar!

Happy Day 100 to SoberSarah!

Happy Day 100 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 100 to Inspired!

Happy Day 100 to Tweet!

Happy Day 100 to Calypso!

Happy Day 100 to Runnery Amy!

Happy Day 100 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 100 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 100 to Jeans!

Happy Day 100 to Mellow!

Happy Day 100 to Carly!

Happy Day 100 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 100 to 2BLimber!

Happy Day 180 to VMD Free!

Happy Day 180 to TSilver!

Happy Day 180 to DeborahLynn!

Happy Day 180 to Lippy!

Happy Day 180 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 180 to Lua!

Happy Day 180 to MG7!

Happy Day 180 to TT!

Happy Day 180 to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 180 to Sabrina!

Happy Day 180 to Bladerboy!

Happy Day 200 to SuzanneFran!

Happy Day 200 to LeftCoastGirl!

Happy Day 200 to Steffspud!

Happy Day 200 to Rasberrikiss!

Happy Day 200 to Hollykate!

Happy Day 2o0 to Airbear!

Happy Day 300 to CaseyM!

Happy Day 300 to MessyJessy!

Happy Day 300 to Waggintail!

Happy Day 300 to Surfrider11!

Happy Day 300 to runnergirl!

Happy Day 365 to Apprentice DB!

Happy Day 365 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 365 to Franny!

Happy Day 365 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 365 to TJ!

Happy Day 365 to SoberinMtl!

Happy Day 365 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 365 to Elis!

Happy Day 365 to Lydster!

Happy Day 365 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 365 to Troxy!

Happy Day 365 to Fern!

Happy Day 365 to Coco!

Happy Day 365 to NLW!

Happy Day 365 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 400 to SarahBee!

Happy Day 400 to Mamafergs!

Happy Day 400 to NSRunner!

Happy Day 400 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 400 to Truleah!

Happy Day 400 to Phoenix!

Happy Day 400 to Crystal Light!

Happy Day 500 to EMJ001!

Happy Day 500 to Lavenderzone!

Happy Day 500 to TickleMeShelmo!

Happy Day 500 to Suzan!

Happy Day 500 to Linley!

Happy Day 500 to NicholasCharles!

Happy Day 600 to Yoda!

Happy Day 600 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 600 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 600 to VTgirl!

Happy Day 600 to MJP!

Happy Day 600 to Jobo!

Happy Day 600 to Mytimetoshine!

Happy Day 600 to Inky!

Happy Day 600 to Graceful!

Happy Day 700 to Sea Turtle!

Happy Day 700 to Miss M!

Happy Day 700 to CoffeeCupHead!

Happy Day 700 to LJ63!

Happy Day 700 to Trixie!

Happy Day 700 to Kitkatpaddywack!

Happy Day 700 to 1035!

Happy Day 700 to Jayda!

Happy Day 700 to Frankie!

Happy Day 800 to JuneBug!

Happy Day 800 to Frenchie!

Happy Day 800 to Elly!

Happy Day 800 to GabbyGirl37!

Happy Day 800 to Rexytime!

Happy Day 800 to Cocomack!

Happy Day 800 to NewChris!

Happy Day 800 to Jas!

Happy Day 900 to Lily Chatsworth!

Happy Day 900 to Lara!

Happy Day 900 to Ish!

Happy Day 900 to Paulita!

Happy Day 900 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 900 to Cricket!

Happy Day 900 to Shar!

Happy Day 900 to Kenney!

Happy Day 900 to Bekki!

Happy Day 900 to Meagan!

Happy Day 1000 to AM!

Happy Day 1000 to IrishGirl!

Happy Day 1000 Parisienne Knitter!

Happy Day 1000 to Run Dontwine!

Happy Day 1000 to tlcompte!

Happy Day 1000 to hcasstevens!

Happy Day 1100 Doll Face!

Happy Day 1100 to OneDayAtATime!

Happy Day 1100 to Tuomas!

Happy Day 1100 to Nuchter Maya!

Happy Day 1100 to Sherri!

Happy Day 1100 to KateF!

Happy Day 1100 to Wanting to be a Sober Mom!

Happy Day 1100 Telling The Words!

Happy Day 1100 Lurking With Intent!

Happy Day 1100 Traci!

Happy Day 1100 Challenges!

Happy Day 1100 Margy!

Happy Day 1100 Tammi!

Happy Day 1100 Shell Bell!

Happy Day 1200 to Lucy!

Happy Day 1200 to Cat Girl!

Happy Day 1200 to Carolyne!

Happy Day 1300 to Trish!

Happy Day 1300 to KristinRecovering!

Happy Day 1600 to Katherine!

 

re-entry

written december 30th:

home from trip to australia, all seems well on re-entry thus far. though i do have a full inbox that’ll take 1-2 days to fully answer 🙂 it’s also very cold here (like below freezing) while sydney is having a heat wave.

sober travel. here’s what it means: remember everything. no missed afternoons. no hungover mornings. spend less money (more money for treats; more money for vacations!).

travelling sober means we sleep better, even in strange beds. travelling sober means that even with a spontaneous head cold developed hrs before the flight, even with head/ear pain, you still don’t drink. you sleep instead — you know, that thing you said you never did (sleep on flights), yeah that thing. that’s what you do.

and you eat the food they give you (thumbs down for qantas, hooray for emirates). you take pictures from the window while flying near zurich (no kidding!).

you come home, nap for a few hours, get up and have a regular evening, then you — wait for it — go to bed and sleep all night and are spontaneously adjusted to the time change. yes. sober travelling. no booze to slam me into neutral. no booze to ‘make the time pass’. no booze to ‘celebrate’ or ‘soothe’ the ear ache (which ended as soon as the plane began its descent).

true, i’m home now to 4 loads of laundry (must my husband wash everything in his suitcase? i mean, we did laundry in melbourne and sydney along the way …). i’m home to pledge to eat better (ha. croissants + the best ham/cheese baguette last night). i’m home to sleep in  my own bed (there may not be any better reward for a 25 hr flight than your own bed. the king-sized one. with the right pillow.).

it’s cold outside. the christmas decorations shine and remind us that we weren’t here for christmas. well, we had christmas on the beach, does that count? we had an alternate-reality christmas complete with corn on the cob (hey, i know the last time i had corn on the cob now! it was christmas day).

my husband has (literally) put the map for Portugal into the bathroom as of last night, so he can scope out ideas while in the tubbie for a trip in the spring…

sober travel means that re-entry, transitions are just plain easier.

cuz really, life is plain easier when sober. all of it. the sleep is easier, the travelling, the flying, the thinking.

it’s just easier to be sober. who knew.
love and hugs from me 🙂

p.s. obligatory link you click to indicate engagement (the linked blog post was written april 2013 and is the 3rd most popular on the blog). (i will one day learn to write without parentheticals. (perhaps.))

day 16. scholarship

as part of you re-engaging with sober supports, i thought today – boxing day – a day of reflecting on ‘what next’ – well, i thought today would be a good day for me to give away a scholarship pass to the sober jumpstart class. if you’ve thought about doing this class before but you haven’t – for whatever reason – then this might be a good time to apply.

part 1. First i want to hear from people who have taken the class before, and you can share a comment here to help people applying for the scholarship understand how the class might help them. you can share a bit about why you took the class, and what parts you found most useful. happy you do the jumpstart class? post a comment here.

part 2. Now, if you would like to be considered for a free scholarship to do the jumpstart class, then send me an email (don’t post here), and tell me a bit about you. I will read through the applications and will chose 4 people for scholarships (one audio-only, one regular version of the class, one lovely, and one kick-ass – total value $1,075). The scholarships will be awarded based on a combination of your story, how you describe what you want your next steps to be, and your financial situation (which might be based on need, or perhaps based on the fact that you can’t easily spend common family money).  my email address is tiredofdrinking@gmail.com

ok, got it? if you’ve taken the class before, post a comment and share with new or nervous people why you took the class and how it helped you. and if you haven’t taken the class – for whatever reason – and you’d like to be considered for one of 4 available scholarships, you can send me an email and follow the instructions in part 2 above.  my email address is tiredofdrinking@gmail.com

  • small print. if you are awarded a scholarship for the class and you have done the class before (and paid for it in the last 3 months), then we’ll work out some kind of bonus for you.

happy boxing day to you. happy leftovers day to you.

hugs, me

oh, ps. thanks to donors, there are nine free copies of the little chick audio available here.

 

Photos: Christmas / Holiday / Seasons Changing

Assignment #26: Christmas, Holidays, Seasons Changing

Thanks to everyone who sent me photos and art projects.

This photo project is closed to new submissions.

Sober Solstice

From Sober in Richmond (The Solstice Guy): “I started my 100 Day challenge on Winter Solstice [and is celebrating 2 years sober today] … If there is anyone out there who needs some motivation to start – perhaps they can do the Solstice to Solstice. It really helped me to have the power of the whole darn earth behind me rather than a day or date on a calendar. I like Winter to Summer because the days get longer, and each day brings about more promise and more hope. It’s an incredibly magical thing, the Solstice to Solstice!”

Imagine it’s the shortest day of the year (tomorrow in the northern hemisphere). Imagine you’re sober starting tomorrow, December 21st. It can be your Day 1 or maybe it’s your Day 50. Or 400. Doesn’t matter. Can you see yourself sober on June 21st? Summer Solstice. Stand here. Look ahead 180 days. Because if you think the view from day 100 is great, wait until you see 180 days.

  • If you’d like to be sober from Solstice to Solstice, you can put a comment below.
  • Sober for 180 days? Sign up to receive one archived podcast every 2 days for 180 days. That’s 90 audios in total, starting with SP001 Accepting Help all the way to SP090 Magical Time. Audios discounted 40%.

I like the idea of having the ‘whole darn earth behind me’ – how about you?

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