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anonymous confession booth: things we wish we could say

step right up. for one day only, i’m creating an anonymous sober confession booth.

I want to focus on things we wish we could say. Like things you would like to admit but you don’t have anyone you can tell. Sex things, relationship things, guilt things, kid things. Drinking things. Fear things.

This came to me because of a one-on-one call i had with A. earlier this week (thanks!). We all have things that we feel we can’t tell anyone.

i personally hate dwelling in the past — unnecessarily. Yes, sometimes we have to excavate. But i don’t want to wallow. And there’s a very fine line between the two. And then there’s the shame. and the guilt. yeah.

So here’s the deal.

  1. Post a comment below.

  2. For this to work you MUST leave your name and your email and your website address BLANK in the comments form (if you forget, i’ll go in and delete that info manually). all comments are to be anonymous. one of the comments will be from me, you just won’t know which one.

  3. I have no way of personally knowing who posts what. Promise.

  4. In your comment, write two or three sentences (max.) about something that you’d like to tell someone, or something you’d like to admit. For example, i’ll make one up: “Because my brother was sick when i was a child, i never got enough attention.” OR “I like one of my children more than the others.” OR “I want to tell my mother that I’m sober so she could stop worrying about me, but I can’t bring myself to do it yet.”

  5. Then take a second and post an anonymous ‘reply’ to ONE of the other comments already posted, and say something comforting, consoling, kind.

i have a feeling that this will unfold in a lovely way. because you’re all lovely people. and we all feel tongue-tied sometimes. What would you say if you could?

PS. if your name/email automatically shows up when you start to enter a comment, you can manually delete them OR you can ‘log out’ of your blogging profile.

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Audio: Ellie Revisited (part 2)

Last fall I did a long interview with Ellie Schoenberger for my weekly sober podcast thingy.

you know Ellie, right? She’s big in the sobriety world. She’s one of the founders of The Bubble Hour and the website Crying Out Now.

Since the entire conversation runs long, I’ve divided it up into pieces. Here’s an extract from part 2, it’s about 2 minutes long.

Please leave a comment after you listen to the extract … so that i know you’re out there.

Click below to listen:

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Audio: Ellie Revisited (part 1)

Last fall I did a long interview with Ellie Schoenberger for my weekly sober podcast thingy.

you know Ellie, right? She’s big in the sobriety world. She’s one of the founders of The Bubble Hour and the website Crying Out Now.

Well this week I had the opportunity to speak with her again, and she’s now one year sober :) hooray.

And yes, we talk about everything, including the expense of treatment, the anger, the feelings of being overwhelmed, and how to hit the giant pause button on life. And there’s lots of laughing, too.

Since the entire conversation runs long, I’ve divided it up into pieces. Here’s an extract from part 1, it’s 3 minutes long.

Please leave a comment after you listen to the extract … so that i know you’re out there.

Click below to listen:

listen2click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

anonymous forgiveness

ok. the last time we did this together, it worked really well. so for one day only, i’m creating an Anonymous Forgiveness Space. why today? because i want to let myself off the hook for something, and i know that depending on how i phrase it, it’ll reach someone else too.

So here’s the deal.

  1. Post a comment below.

  2. For this to work you MUST leave your name and your email and your website address BLANK in the comments form (if you forget, i’ll go in and delete that info manually). all comments are to be anonymous.  one of the comments will be from me, you just won’t know which one.

  3. I have no way of personally knowing who posts what. Promise.

  4. In your comment, write two or three sentences (max.) about something that you would like to forgive yourself for, for something you did, or said, or thought, because of alcohol. When you write the comment, phrase it like this: “I forgive you for …” Then later, you can read it again and drink in the goodness, AND someone ELSE can read it and get the goodness too.

For example, i’ll make one up. Let’s say you waited to long to go the doctor because you were afraid to admit how much you  drank.

So then as your comment, you’d write: “I forgive you for waiting too long to go to the doctor. Drinking made you scared.” OR “I know you didn’t mean to … and I forgive you for …”

  1. Then take a second and post an anonymous ‘reply’ to one of the other comments already posted, and say something lovely and kind.

PS. if your name/email automatically shows up when you start to enter a comment, you can manually delete them OR you can ‘log out’ of your blogging profile. i will also remove anything that inadvertently shows up before posting.

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Audio: Alcohol in the house

For episode #86, available for sober podcast thingy subscribers, I answer a question submitted by Zenmeg: “How to cope when alcohol is in the house. Either someone brought some over for dinner, as a gift, or you bought some for dinner guests and it is still unopened and in the house.” So I try to address this question, both in how I personally deal with it, but also how other people adjust their lives. There is no one size fits all answer here but I try to hit the big ideas on what YOU can do to make it easier for yourself going forward.

The full audio is 14 minutes long, here’s an extract (this is the first 2.5 minutes):

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If you’d like to hear the entire audio, you can sign up to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

 

 

Audio: Life Challenges

Episode #85 for my sober podcast thingy is definitely the hardest audio I’ve ever recorded. How do you deal with shitty life events and be sober. What about cancer, or death. What about worry and frustration. Is it still worth being sober? Bob sent me an email asking these questions, and this audio is my response to her. There will be tears. This is hard.

Below I’ve posted a 4 minute extract from audio.

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If you’d like to hear the entire audio, you can sign up to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

 

 

Audio: The High Jump and the Wheelchair

Episode #84 for my sober podcast thingy is about the high jump and a wheelchair. Yeah, OK. I know you don’t think these two things go together. But what if you wanted to do the high jump and you were in a wheelchair? Can it be done? I would have said no before. And I would have been wrong. Like I was wrong about so many things.

This audio mentions how Europe is like sobriety, how being out of debt can make you cry, and i tell you story of my friend with the unfailingly positive attitude. Grr.

Below I’ve posted a 2 minute extract from audio.

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click here to try a podcast subscription (1 month trial) – and of course, when you get bored of me, you can cancel whenever you want

 

 

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