Thursday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Char S

Happy Day 50 to SDBKatz

Happy Day 50 to Take 2

Happy Day 50 to Kacey

Happy Day 50 to Kris

Happy Day 50 to 35&changing

Happy Day 100 to Sober Tea

Happy Day 100 to SoberinVA

Happy Day 100 to Jaylee

Happy Day 100 to Mrs Roberts

Happy Day 180 to Shannon A

Happy Day 180 to Sisty

Happy Day 180 to SohoCat

Happy Day 180 to Ashley

Happy Day 180 to Georgia Girl

Happy Day 180 to Grace514

Happy Day 180 to Soprano

Happy Day 180 to Indy

Happy Day 200 to Bunnie

Happy Day 200 to Liz

Happy Day 200 to Girl Named Sam

Happy Day 200 to Meadowmuffins

Happy Day 300 to Edi

Happy Day 300 to Leftcoastgirl

Happy Day 300 to Cindyb

Happy Day 400 to MessyJessy

Happy Day 500 to Phoenix

Happy Day 600 to Suzan

Happy Day 700 to CoffeeCupHead

Happy Day 700 to Kitkatpaddywack

Happy Day 900 to Elly

Happy Day 1000 to Paulita

Happy Day 1100 Janett

Happy Day 1200 to OneDayAtATime

Happy Day 1200 to KateF

Happy Day 1200 to Margy

i have a choice

With a brain that says “I’d like to be sober, I don’t want to give up alcohol, I’d like to be sober, I don’t want to change anything about my life to help make this happen, oh I should probably quit now, why is this so hard when I don’t really drink very much, perhaps because I have a high bottom I could squeeze in a few more years of drinking” … then perhaps the worst case scenario is that you don’t quit now. You keep going until you have really shitty low bottom, or until you’re physically dependent, or both. Then you find that it’s really really REALLY hard to quit. You go to rehab and AA and it’s still hard to quit. Your brain is NOT on your side, and it tells you any manner of things. You have to ask your sponsor if it’s OK to see your ex-husband (no) or if you should go on vacation (do they have meetings?). If booze is an elevator that only goes down, I have a choice.

Thursday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Doodle!

Happy Day 50 to Hernoodlyness!

Happy Day 50 to Jacci2!

Happy Day 50 to Honeybadger!

Happy Day 50 to Martha C!

Happy Day 50 to SoberSparkles!

Happy Day 50 to MrsWooly!

Happy Day 100 to PeaceableJ!

Happy Day 100 to Mindful Monica!

Happy Day 180 to Rachele!

Happy Day 180 to Pwhims!

Happy Day 180 to RoseStar!

Happy Day 180 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 180 to Inspired!

Happy Day 200 to Jeans!

Happy Day 200 to Carly!

Happy Day 200 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 200 to Jjm14!

Happy Day 300 to CindiB!

Happy Day 365 to Patten!

Happy Day 365 to KT Web!

Happy Day 400 to CaseyM!

Happy Day 400 to Surfrider11!

Happy Day 400 to Runnergirl!

Happy Day 600 to NicholasCharles!

Happy Day 600 to Linley!

Happy Day 700 to Graceful!

Happy Day 800 to 1035!

Happy Day 800 to Jayda!

Happy Day 800 to Frankie!

Happy Day 900 to Rexytime!

Happy Day 900 to Cocomac!

Happy Day 900 to NewChris!

Happy Day 900 to Jas!

Happy Day 1000 to Ish!

Happy Day 1000 to Bekki!

Happy Day 1100 to tlecompte!

Happy Day 1100 to hcasstevens!

Happy Day 1200 to Wanting to be a Sober Mom!

Happy Day 1200 to Tammi!

Happy Day 1200 to Shell Bell!

Happy Day 1200 to Tuomas!

Happy Day 1300 to DianeLouise!

Happy Day 1400 to KristinRecovering! 


LINKS:
are you following me on Medium? new One Minute Message transcript posted this morning . not drinking today . the booze elevator . only goes down . and then there’s resentment

 

Tuesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Captain E!

Happy Day 50 to Donohuli!

Happy Day 50 to Nickie!

Happy Day 50 to Turtle!

Happy Day 50 to Nature Nancy!

Happy Day 50 to RedRedWine!

Happy Day 50 to Ninabear!

Happy Day 50 to Aimee!

Happy Day 50 to Kaycee!

Happy Day 50 to macbender1!

Happy Day 50 to Lotus Lady!

Happy Day 50 to SandraS!

Happy Day 50 to La Sobria!

Happy Day 50 to RunLily!

Happy Day 50 to Manaste25!

Happy Day 50 to Bridget!

Happy Day 50 to Blou!

Happy Day 100 to SarahJune31!

Happy Day 100 to Erinie!

Happy Day 100 to LimeTree!

Happy Day 100 to MelMel!

Happy Day 100 to Wynn!

Happy Day 100 to Sophiestar!

Happy Day 100 to Mamahope!

Happy Day 100 to Dusty!

Happy Day 100 to Chalee!

Happy Day 100 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 180 to Tweet!

Happy Day 180 to Calypso!

Happy Day 180 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 180 to Liz!

Happy Day 180 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 180 to Meadowmuffins!

Happy Day 180 to Jeans!

Happy Day 180 to Carly!

Happy Day 200 to 2BLimber!

Happy Day 200 to Gene!

Happy Day 200 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 200 to TJS!

Happy Day 200 to RubyHarper!

Happy Day 200 to Poppy!

Happy Day 300 to Cindyb!

Happy Day 365 to waggintail!

Happy Day 400 to Auds!

Happy Day 400 to KaffyB!!

Happy Day 400 to Debbie!

Happy Day 500 to ChellyBelly!

Happy Day 500 to KAB!

Happy Day 500 to StonewallPDS!

Happy Day 500 to Hughie!

Happy Day 700 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 700 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 800 to LJ63!

Happy Day 800 to Sean!

Happy Day 800 to Funcar13!

Happy Day 800 to Indian Lake!

Happy Day 800 to Mahatma jojo!

Happy Day 800 to MelP!

Happy Day 900 to Canadian Girl!

Happy Day 900 to Cxx!

Happy Day 900 to GG!

Happy Day 900 to Festie!

Happy Day 900 to Graceb!

Happy Day 1000 to Megan!

Happy Day 1000 to Haggismcbaggis!

Happy Day 1000 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 1000 to Mizgabz!

Happy Day 1000 to Sanfransober!

Happy Day 1100 to Otherjosh!

Happy Day 1100 to RunnerMom!

Happy Day 1100 to Jlynn!

Happy Day 1100 to Fernie Sobertina!

Happy Day 1100 to Julie-Joy’s Dad!

Happy Day 1200 to Nuchter Maya!

Happy Day 1200 to Janet!

Happy Day 1200 to Beach_Girl!

Happy Day 1200 to Terry!

Happy Day 1200 to Denise!

Happy Day 1300 to Jenisthesoberist!

Happy Day 1400 to Original Beth!

Happy Day 1400 to Leah!

Happy Day 1500 to Erika!

Happy Day 1500 to Debra!

 

Tuesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Nost!

Happy Day 50 to CPS!

Happy Day 50 to Tewks!

Happy Day 50 to LunaBlu!

Happy Day 50 to Gomez!

Happy Day 50 to Sings!

Happy Day 50 to KRD!

Happy Day 50 to Peaceable J!

Happy Day 50 to Jule!

Happy Day 50 to Jazzhands70!

Happy Day 50 to RetiringPartyGirl!

Happy Day 50 to Stefanie!

Happy Day 50 to Charlene!

Happy Day 50 to EmeraldGirl!

Happy Day 50 to Norma!

Happy Day 50 to Kelley!

Happy Day 50 to IngridandMac!

Happy Day 50 to Ree67!

Happy Day 50 to Steph!

Happy Day 50 to Lavender!

Happy Day 50 to Itssue!

Happy Day 50 to Sheree!

Happy Day 50 to LightLee!

Happy Day 50 to Gina!

Happy Day 50 to Staying Present!

Happy Day 50 to Johnny!

Happy Day 50 to AnnieO!

Happy Day 50 to Still Breathing!

Happy Day 50 to Lexie!

Happy Day 50 to Gomez!

Happy Day 50 to ararebird!

Happy Day 50 to Glitter!

Happy Day 50 to Megs!

Happy Day 50 to ANewDawn!

Happy Day 50 to NormaJean1215!

Happy Day 50 to Mummabear!

Happy Day 50 to Dazzzor!

Happy Day 50 to Raspberry!

Happy Day 50 to Wanda T!

Happy Day 50 to Rambling Rose!

Happy Day 50 to LOL!

Happy Day 50 to GK!

Happy Day 50 to Franci!

Happy Day 50 to IC Momentum!

Happy Day 50 to Mamabird!

Happy Day 50 to Buttercup244!

Happy Day 50 to Melanie!

Happy Day 50 to Mountain Girl!

Happy Day 50 to Sober Tea!

Happy Day 50 to Undrunken Dan!

Happy Day 50 to Junebee!

Happy Day 50 to Sober in VA!

Happy Day 50 to LifeAsIRockIt!

Happy Day 50 to Late Trier!

Happy Day 50 to Jaylee!

Happy Day 50 to Mrs. Roberts!

Happy Day 50 to Ket!

Happy Day 50 to CCC!

Happy Day 50 to Lizzytish!

Happy Day 50 to Peaceable J!

Happy Day 50 to Mindful Monica!

Happy Day 100 to Gem64!

Happy Day 100 to Stillbridge!

Happy Day 100 to Bruna!

Happy Day 100 to Liquid Tracy!

Happy Day 100 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 100 to Ana Maria!

Happy Day 100 to NoWineMom!

Happy Day 100 to SueW!

Happy Day 100 to Mari!

Happy Day 100 to RoadtoSoberville!

Happy Day 100 to Putting Down the Glass!

Happy Day 100 to Lacie!

Happy Day 100 to Eily!

Happy Day 100 to NMD!

Happy Day 100 to Kiki71!

Happy Day 100 to wantasoberlife!

Happy Day 100 to Imba!

Happy Day 100 to Resiliensea!

Happy Day 100 to Stillbridge!

Happy Day 100 to True.d.True!

Happy Day 100 to Elyn Jones!

Happy Day 100 to Becca1978!

Happy Day 180 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 180 to JJM14!

Happy Day 180 to 2BLimber!

Happy Day 180 to Gene!

Happy Day 180 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 180 to TJS!

Happy Day 180 to RubyHarper!

Happy Day 180 to Poppy!

Happy Day 200 to Topo Chico!

Happy Day 200 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 200 to Ruby!

Happy Day 200 to Hollm!

Happy Day 200 to Brett!

Happy Day 200 to Bemmy Girl!

Happy Day 200 to Maverick!

Happy Day 200 to Molly Jones!

Happy Day 200 to April!

Happy Day 200 to RachelB!

Happy Day 200 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 200 to AustinHappy!

Happy Day 200 to TSilver!

Happy Day 200 to VMD Free!

Happy Day 300 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 300 to Jessee!

Happy Day 300 to Reenie!

Happy Day 300 to Imara!

Happy Day 300 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 300 to Toga!

Happy Day 300 to Patten!

Happy Day 365 to Southernsunshine!

Happy Day 365 to Debbie!

Happy Day 365 to Auds!

Happy Day 365 to Messy Jessy!

Happy Day 365 to Casey M!

Happy Day 365 to Surfrider 11!

Happy Day 365 to Runnergirl!

Happy Day 365 to KaffyB!

Happy Day 400 to KLC!

Happy Day 400 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 400 to Lanza!

Happy Day 400 to Boo!

Happy Day 400 to Chell!

Happy Day 400 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 400 to DB!

Happy Day 400 to Franny!

Happy Day 400 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 400 to TJ!

Happy Day 400 to SoberinMtl!

Happy Day 400 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 400 to Binkles!

Happy Day 400 to Elis!

Happy Day 400 to Lydster!

Happy Day 400 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 500 to Thirsty Iris!

Happy Day 500 to GypsyGirl!

Happy Day 500 to Tree!

Happy Day 500 to Lucia!

Happy Day 600 to Cal!

Happy Day 600 to Kai!

Happy Day 600 to JP!

Happy Day 600 to Meraki!

Happy Day 600 to Gordon!

Happy Day 600 to Unwindegal!

Happy Day 700 to Cheaton!

Happy Day 700 to DW!

Happy Day 700 to Monty!

Happy Day 700 to Celene!

Happy Day 700 to TK!

Happy Day 700 to Hollers!

Happy Day 700 to Oz!

Happy Day 800 to  Solstice Guy!

Happy Day 800 to Joannie!

Happy Day 800 to Turcotte!

Happy Day 800 to Jennetic!

Happy Day 800 to Southern Magnolia 1013!

Happy Day 800 to Rock2015!

Happy Day 800 to Minnime!

Happy Day 900 to Mak!

Happy Day 900 to Paris!

Happy Day 900 to MidWestVeggie!

Happy Day 900 to RoseMarie!

Happy Day 900 to Rah!

Happy Day 900 to Tami!

Happy Day 900 to Janna!

Happy Day 900 to Jacqui!

Happy Day 900 to Petunia!

Happy Day 900 to Dancing Rabbit!

Happy Day 900 to Microlady!

Happy Day 900 to AlexP!

Happy Day 900 to Chefstaff!

Happy Day 900 to Monique!

Happy Day 900 to iphonebonnie!

Happy Day 900 to Chachi!

Happy Day 1000 to Sarah72!

Happy Day 1000 to Cassieb!

Happy Day 1000 to Jon!

Happy Day 1000 to Shelby!

Happy Day 1000 to Aaron!

Happy Day 1000 to Weenie!

Happy Day 1000 to Via51214!

Happy Day 1000 to 1111!

Happy Day 1000 to Manda!

Happy Day 1000 to Sober Lemon!

Happy Day 1000 to PP!

Happy Day 1100 to Jessi!

Happy Day 1100 to Heike!

Happy Day 1100 to Daybird!

Happy Day 1100 to Allison!

Happy Day 1100 to LolaB!

Happy Day 1100 to Connie!

Happy Day 1100 to Fich!

Happy Day 1100 to Hank!

Happy Day 1100 to Aschae!

Happy Day 1100 to Emery!

Happy Day 1100 to Going2pieces!

Happy Day 1100 to Apprentice SoberP!

Happy Day 1100 to Blake!

Happy Day 1200 to TheFun4!

Happy Day 1200 to Terence!

Happy Day 1200 to Clear Eyed Girl!

Happy Day 1200 to Hazeleyes!

Happy Day 1200 to Case Study Tim!

Happy Day 1200 to Baby Girl Butterfly!

Happy Day 1200 to Primrose!

Happy Day 1200 to Sadie!

Happy Day 1200 to SignGurl!

Happy Day 1200 to Jeannie Yogini!

Happy Day 1200 to Jilly Bean!

Happy Day 1200 to Kirst!

Happy Day 1300 to Pam!

Happy Day 1300 to JennyGardenGirl!

Happy Day 1300 to Sharon!

Happy Day 1300 to LD!

Happy Day 1300 to Laurie!

Happy Day 1400 to JM!

Happy Day 1703 to me 🙂

 

Sober tools: what helps, and what doesn’t

originally published on Medium

Sober tools: what helps, and what doesn’t

(Stop fucking around with houses built out of straw)

M (day 1 sober) writes: Belle, I keep trying all these things to help me be sober and nothing works. I just spent $100 on vitamins. I’ve been to the one-day, quit-drinking workshop. I signed up for a French class. You see, I’ve always wanted to go to Paris and with all the money I’m not spending on booze, I could buy a plane ticket.

You can hear M’s thinking, you can totally see what she’s saying, and it seems logical, doesn’t it. And my reply would be: “If you are continuously sober, then yes, whatever you’re doing is working. Keep doing it.”

But if you are not continuously sober — and I mean if you reset after 2 days, or 20 days, or 200 days — then what you’re doing isn’t quite enough to keep you sober. So you add in more sober tools.

Argh, I’m on Day 1 again. I’m enrolled in French class. Why isn’t that enough?

French class is something you can hang in the space that booze used to occupy. But taking a French class is not a sober tool.

Sober tools are things that help you to be sober.

Imagine this. You’re one of the three little piggies who is building a sober house, and wolfie comes to blow your sober house down.

You build your sober house out of straw or sticks or tarps or wood, and wolfie blows it over. Maybe not right away, maybe not tomorrow, but as soon as there’s a strong wind, as soon as there’s a death or a celebration or a runaway teenager or Sheila in accounting pulls her shit again and refuses to do the cheque run before end of day on Friday.

Doesn’t take much, then wolfie is at the door. Blowing. Sober house falls down.

But let’s be real, wolfie only has to knock on the door of your house made of straw to knock it over. To the house of wood, he’ll knock, and when that doesn’t work, he’ll add in lung full of hot air and a bit of whining. Doesn’t take long.

(And really, you built a sober house out of straw? You were wishi. You’re were hoping you could do the minimum. You knew it wasn’t going to be enough.)

To the house of stone, though, the house built out of sober stones set careful on a sober cement foundation — yeah, that house — well, wolfie will knock on your door. And when that doesn’t work, he’ll try to blow you over with convincing arguments as to why you need to Drink Right Now. You’ll add in a bit more cement and wave to him through the window. He’ll look for cracks, but you’ve got double-paned glass and a bug screen.

Now this sober stone house, this is your life.

Your life is worth more than the minimum. It’s worth more than straw and tarps.

The soul of you, the essence of you, the real you that isn’t anesthetized, the real you that is empathetic and helpful and has good boundaries — that you gets deserves to be guarded in a solid stone structure.

What helps to build a wolfie-proof, stone sober house?

Advice from an architect. Talking to the girl at Home Depot about the length of the nails and what’s worked on similar projects.

Pouring a cement foundation. Going as slowly as required to not have to pour the foundation, dig it up, pour it again, and dig it up again. What a waste of time that is. Do the sober foundation, yes, but if you do it too quickly, do it too rashly, try to do it with inadequate cement, or do it while doing too many other things at the same time — well, you know what happens.

You can see this example clearly when we’re talking about cement.

The colour of the paint, and the carefully selected tri-season-blooming flowers, the stony garden walks, and the breeding fruit trees do not build a strong house.

The French classes and spin classes and yoga classes and pottery classes and vitamins don’t help you change your behaviour. They’re wonderful (and necessary and lovely) things to add to your life. They are.

But they’re not sober tools.

A sober tool is something that helps you to be sober. Not paint colour.

You want to paint the room, but you haven’t built the room. You want to choose the light fixture, but the wiring isn’t in yet. You want to focus on the details all around THE THING.

The thing you want is to be sober. And so you’re online spending hours choosing the right French class?

You just spent $100 on multivitamins because that should help you be sober?

What if you’d spent that time and that $100 on actual sober supports. You don’t though, because wolfie is a sly fucker, taunting perfectly nice people with bullshit logic like vitamins and French classes.

OK. So sober tools. They’re things that help you be sober. That would include anything that directly makes it more likely that you (a) remember that being sober is a good idea, (b) soothes irritation, (c) helps you be accountable, (d) checks in on you, (e) reminds you what you’re doing when you forget, (f) reinforces the idea of the sober foundation and why you need it because you forgot again, (g) makes it possible for you to not drink.

A French class isn’t a sober tool. Just like your drinking husband isn’t a sober support.

What works?

Treats and rewards work for being sober. Accountability works. Actual sober support works. Planning replacement drinks works. Listening to sober audios works. Reaching out works.

(Do you think you can read books about pouring cement foundations and have the book be enough? Is a one-day workshop enough? How about a forum of other people on day 1 of cement pouring? Why are you walking around outside THIS THING acting like you don’t know what to do? You know what to do. You know that if you ask for support from people who can actually support you, you can get this done. You know that if you turn and face the resources and education and accountability that sober support provides, that you’ll learn from people who’ve done it 2,593 times that you’ll save time, feel better, and have your cement poured sooner.)

And don’t get me wrong.

If you’ve built a house out of straw AND IT’S WORKING FOR YOU then keep doing what you’re doing.

But if the wind keeps blowing you over, you’ve gotta look at having some new tools.

And paint isn’t a tool.

Neither is a French class.

Wednesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to SarahJune31!

Happy Day 50 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 50 to MelMel!

Happy Day 50 to Wynn!

Happy Day 50 to BalanceBeam!

Happy Day 50 to Dusty!

Happy Day 50 to Chalee!

Happy Day 50 to Sobriety Shingles!

Happy Day 50 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 50 to Lars!

Happy Day 50 to Gem64!

Happy Day 100 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 100 to Jamie-Tampa!

Happy Day 100 to Capt. Unwined!

Happy Day 100 to Freedom!

Happy Day 100 to Lerawk!

Happy Day 100 to Anjoma8801!

Happy Day 100 to Kristy!

Happy Day 100 to Lex!

Happy Day 100 to Honoring Grace!

Happy Day 100 to Boozy Betty!

Happy Day 100 to A_Sober_Canibal!

Happy Day 100 to Shannon A!

Happy Day 100 to Cisty!

Happy Day 100 to My Inside Job!

Happy Day 180 to Maverick!

Happy Day 180 to Molly Jones!

Happy Day 180 to April!

Happy Day 180 to Jaded!

Happy Day 180 to RachelB!

Happy Day 180 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 180 to AustinHappy!

Happy Day 180 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 20o to DeborahLynn!

Happy Day 20o to Lippy!

Happy Day 20o to Lua!

Happy Day 20o to MG7!

Happy Day 20o to TT!

Happy Day 20o to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 20o to Nomobsing!

Happy Day 20o to Sabrina!

Happy Day 20o to Bladerboy!

Happy Day 300 to KTWeb!

Happy Day 365 to KLC!

Happy Day 365 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 365 to Lanza!

Happy Day 365 to Chell!

Happy Day 400 to Troxy!

Happy Day 400 to Fern!

Happy Day 400 to Coco!

Happy Day 400 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 500 to Juliejean123!

Happy Day 500 to RossFSU!

Happy Day 500 to Ami!

Happy Day 500 to Sooz!

Happy Day 600 to Liberte!

Happy Day 600 to AnnieB!

Happy Day 600 to Youngernow!

Happy Day 600 to AnnaD!

Happy Day 600 to Whitbell25!

Happy Day 600 to Beck!

Happy Day 600 to Ginette!

Happy Day 600 to Lilac!

Happy Day 600 to ElizabethDC!

Happy Day 600 to Silver Birch!

Happy Day 600 to Mil!

Happy Day 600 to Seekingpeace!

Happy Day 700 to Julie-Joy’s Sister!

Happy Day 700 to AmandaPanda!

Happy Day 700 to Ms. Red!

Happy Day 700 to Fay858!

Happy Day 700 to Me-fixing-me!

Happy Day 700 to Lisa1199!

Happy Day 700 to Mythreesons!

Happy Day 700 to Honner!

Happy Day 700 to Gingerade!

Happy Day 700 to SophieSomething!

Happy Day 700 to Rache B!

Happy Day 700 to Yogayamagirl!

Happy Day 700 to Jock!

Happy Day 800 to Library Girl!

Happy Day 800 to Chace!

Happy Day 800 to Marbear!

Happy Day 900 to nomorepinot!

Happy Day 900 to Fleur!

Happy Day 1000 to Foxie!

Happy Day 1000 to Renee!

Happy Day 1000 to Battersea Park!

Happy Day 1000 to Welles!

Happy Day 1000 to Gra!

Happy Day 1000 to SusieQ!

Happy Day 1000 to IrishDee!

Happy Day 1000 to GW!

Happy Day 1000 to JustHadToHaveIt!

Happy Day 1100 to DeeN!

Happy Day 1100 to Amos!

Happy Day 1100 to FitFatFood!

Happy Day 1100 to Moore!

Happy Day 1100 to Crispy!

Happy Day 1100 to Jacques!

Happy Day 1100 to Rose!

Happy Day 1100 to Santa Cruz!

Happy Day 1100 to Phoebe!

Happy Day 1200 to Mylene!

Happy Day 1200 to Jeroen!

Happy Day 1200 to TipTree!

Happy Day 1300 to Durf11!

Happy Day 1300 to Kristi Coulter (penpal #128)!

Happy Day 1300 to C How!

Happy Day 1300 to Sarita!

Happy Day 1300 to Ingrid!

Happy Day 1400 to Rebecca!

Happy Day 1400 to Digs!

Happy Day 1400 to Carrie!

Happy Day 1500 to Amy!

 

Saturday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Bruna!

Happy Day 50 to Liquid Tracy!

Happy Day 50 to Ana Maria!

Happy Day 50 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 50 to Maki!

Happy Day 50 to SueW!

Happy Day 50 to Mari!

Happy Day 50 to Nevis!

Happy Day 50 to Fiona!

Happy Day 50 to Roadtosoberville!

Happy Day 50 to Putting Down the Glass!

Happy Day 50 to Lacie!

Happy Day 50 to Eily!

Happy Day 50 to NoMoreDonuts!

Happy Day 50 to Kiki71!

Happy Day 50 to Honey Bear!

Happy Day 50 to Pixie29!

Happy Day 50 to Maggie Mae!

Happy Day 50 to BG!

Happy Day 50 to i.t.!

Happy Day 50 to Imba!

Happy Day 50 to Resiliensea!

Happy Day 50 to Stillbridge!

Happy Day 50 to True.d.true!

Happy Day 50 to Elyn Jones!

Happy Day 50 to Becca1978!

Happy Day 50 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 50 to Blondie!

Happy Day 100 to Karlatta!

Happy Day 100 to Tweet!

Happy Day 100 to Ashley!

Happy Day 100 to Sohocat!

Happy Day 100 to Georgia Girl!

Happy Day 100 to Grace514!

Happy Day 100 to Indy!

Happy Day 100 to Pwhims!

Happy Day 100 to Suzanne Irene!

Happy Day 100 to Kimpossible!

Happy Day 100 to Rachele!

Happy Day 100 to RoseStar!

Happy Day 100 to SoberSarah!

Happy Day 100 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 100 to Inspired!

Happy Day 100 to Tweet!

Happy Day 100 to Calypso!

Happy Day 100 to Runnery Amy!

Happy Day 100 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 100 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 100 to Jeans!

Happy Day 100 to Mellow!

Happy Day 100 to Carly!

Happy Day 100 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 100 to 2BLimber!

Happy Day 180 to VMD Free!

Happy Day 180 to TSilver!

Happy Day 180 to DeborahLynn!

Happy Day 180 to Lippy!

Happy Day 180 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 180 to Lua!

Happy Day 180 to MG7!

Happy Day 180 to TT!

Happy Day 180 to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 180 to Sabrina!

Happy Day 180 to Bladerboy!

Happy Day 200 to SuzanneFran!

Happy Day 200 to LeftCoastGirl!

Happy Day 200 to Steffspud!

Happy Day 200 to Rasberrikiss!

Happy Day 200 to Hollykate!

Happy Day 2o0 to Airbear!

Happy Day 300 to CaseyM!

Happy Day 300 to MessyJessy!

Happy Day 300 to Waggintail!

Happy Day 300 to Surfrider11!

Happy Day 300 to runnergirl!

Happy Day 365 to Apprentice DB!

Happy Day 365 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 365 to Franny!

Happy Day 365 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 365 to TJ!

Happy Day 365 to SoberinMtl!

Happy Day 365 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 365 to Elis!

Happy Day 365 to Lydster!

Happy Day 365 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 365 to Troxy!

Happy Day 365 to Fern!

Happy Day 365 to Coco!

Happy Day 365 to NLW!

Happy Day 365 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 400 to SarahBee!

Happy Day 400 to Mamafergs!

Happy Day 400 to NSRunner!

Happy Day 400 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 400 to Truleah!

Happy Day 400 to Phoenix!

Happy Day 400 to Crystal Light!

Happy Day 500 to EMJ001!

Happy Day 500 to Lavenderzone!

Happy Day 500 to TickleMeShelmo!

Happy Day 500 to Suzan!

Happy Day 500 to Linley!

Happy Day 500 to NicholasCharles!

Happy Day 600 to Yoda!

Happy Day 600 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 600 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 600 to VTgirl!

Happy Day 600 to MJP!

Happy Day 600 to Jobo!

Happy Day 600 to Mytimetoshine!

Happy Day 600 to Inky!

Happy Day 600 to Graceful!

Happy Day 700 to Sea Turtle!

Happy Day 700 to Miss M!

Happy Day 700 to CoffeeCupHead!

Happy Day 700 to LJ63!

Happy Day 700 to Trixie!

Happy Day 700 to Kitkatpaddywack!

Happy Day 700 to 1035!

Happy Day 700 to Jayda!

Happy Day 700 to Frankie!

Happy Day 800 to JuneBug!

Happy Day 800 to Frenchie!

Happy Day 800 to Elly!

Happy Day 800 to GabbyGirl37!

Happy Day 800 to Rexytime!

Happy Day 800 to Cocomack!

Happy Day 800 to NewChris!

Happy Day 800 to Jas!

Happy Day 900 to Lily Chatsworth!

Happy Day 900 to Lara!

Happy Day 900 to Ish!

Happy Day 900 to Paulita!

Happy Day 900 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 900 to Cricket!

Happy Day 900 to Shar!

Happy Day 900 to Kenney!

Happy Day 900 to Bekki!

Happy Day 900 to Meagan!

Happy Day 1000 to AM!

Happy Day 1000 to IrishGirl!

Happy Day 1000 Parisienne Knitter!

Happy Day 1000 to Run Dontwine!

Happy Day 1000 to tlcompte!

Happy Day 1000 to hcasstevens!

Happy Day 1100 Doll Face!

Happy Day 1100 to OneDayAtATime!

Happy Day 1100 to Tuomas!

Happy Day 1100 to Nuchter Maya!

Happy Day 1100 to Sherri!

Happy Day 1100 to KateF!

Happy Day 1100 to Wanting to be a Sober Mom!

Happy Day 1100 Telling The Words!

Happy Day 1100 Lurking With Intent!

Happy Day 1100 Traci!

Happy Day 1100 Challenges!

Happy Day 1100 Margy!

Happy Day 1100 Tammi!

Happy Day 1100 Shell Bell!

Happy Day 1200 to Lucy!

Happy Day 1200 to Cat Girl!

Happy Day 1200 to Carolyne!

Happy Day 1300 to Trish!

Happy Day 1300 to KristinRecovering!

Happy Day 1600 to Katherine!

 

Friday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Jamie-Tampa!

Happy Day 50 to SarahJune31!

Happy Day 50 to Capt. Unwined!

Happy Day 50 to Nell!

Happy Day 50 to Jabbers!

Happy Day 50 to Adriane C!

Happy Day 50 to Freedom!

Happy Day 50 to Lerawk!

Happy Day 50 to anjoma8801!

Happy Day 50 to Kristy!

Happy Day 50 to Lex!

Happy Day 50 to LaLaLa!

Happy Day 50 to Honoring Grace!

Happy Day 50 to A_Sober_Cannibal!

Happy Day 50 to Shannon A!

Happy Day 50 to Sisty!

Happy Day 50 to My Inside Job!

Happy Day 50 to Emsie!

Happy Day 50 to Karlatta!

Happy Day 50 to SohoCat!

Happy Day 50 to Ashley!

Happy Day 50 to Datagrrl!

Happy Day 50 to Kassie!

Happy Day 50 to Grade514!

Happy Day 50 to Soprano!

Happy Day 50 to Indy!

Happy Day 50 to PWhims!

Happy Day 50 to Suzanne Irene!

Happy Day 50 to Kimpossible!

Happy Day 50 to Rachele!

Happy Day 50 to RoseStar!

Happy Day 50 to SoberSarah!

Happy Day 50 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 50 to Tweet!

Happy Day 50 to Loz!

Happy Day 50 to Pink!

Happy Day 100 to Wren1450!

Happy Day 100 to Julianne!

Happy Day 100 to Gene!

Happy Day 100 to CJback!

Happy Day 100 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 100 to Beth2016!

Happy Day 100 to TJS!

Happy Day 100 to Clear Eyes Full Soul!

Happy Day 100 to Garcia!

Happy Day 100 to RubyHarper!

Happy Day 100 to Poppy!

Happy Day 100 to Topo Chico!

Happy Day 100 to Ruby!

Happy Day 100 to Sahara!

Happy Day 100 to Pearl!

Happy Day 100 to Hollm!

Happy Day 100 to Brett!

Happy Day 100 to Di!

Happy Day 100 to Bemmy girl!

Happy Day 100 to Arya!

Happy Day 100 to BattleMatt!

Happy Day 100 to Maverick!

Happy Day 180 to Airbear!

Happy Day 180 to Edi!

Happy Day 180 to Kerry!

Happy Day 180 to JustJen!

Happy Day 180 to Rivers!

Happy Day 200 to Lelia!

Happy Day 200 to CindyB!

Happy Day 200 to Cozzarella!

Happy Day 200 to Julieanne!

Happy Day 200 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 200 to Jessee!

Happy Day 200 to Reenie!

Happy Day 200 to SW3Girl!

Happy Day 200 to Imara!

Happy Day 200 to Indigo50!

Happy Day 200 to Tekara!

Happy Day 200 to Oriole!

Happy Day 300 to MsM!

Happy Day 300 to Auds!

Happy Day 300 to KaffyB!

Happy Day 300 to Debbie!

Happy Day 300 to KLC!

Happy Day 300 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 300 to Lanza!

Happy Day 300 to Boo!

Happy Day 300 to Chell!

Happy Day 300 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 365 to SarahBee!

Happy Day 365 to NSRunner!

Happy Day 365 to Mamafergs!

Happy Day 365 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 365 to AngieM!

Happy Day 365 to Truleah!

Happy Day 365 to Phoenix!

Happy Day 365 to Emma_J!

Happy Day 365 to Crystal Light!

Happy Day 400 to StonewallPDS!

Happy Day 400 to Ashley!

Happy Day 400 to Hughie!

Happy Day 400 to JP!

Happy Day 400 to Thirsty Iris!

Happy Day 400 to Gypsygirl!

Happy Day 500 to Cal!

Happy Day 500 to Gordon!

Happy Day 600 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 600 to Rosa!

Happy Day 600 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 600 to Cheaton!

Monty!Happy Day 600 to TK!

Happy Day 600 to DW!

Happy Day 600 to Mich!

Happy Day 600 to Celene!

Happy Day 700 to Sean!

Happy Day 700 to Unconfirmed Bachelorette!

Happy Day 700 to FunCar13!

Happy Day 700 to Indian Lake!

Happy Day 700 to Mahatma JoJo!

Happy Day 700 to NeeNee!

Happy Day 700 to Sareet!

Happy Day 700 to Alescha!

Happy Day 700 to MelP!

Happy Day 700 to Solstice Guy!

Happy Day 700 to Ase!

Happy Day 700 to Summer Walking!

Happy Day 700 to Turcotte!

Happy Day 700 to Brooke!

Happy Day 700 to Ariel Rose!

Happy Day 800 to AngelaRenai!

Happy Day 800 to Canadian Girl!

Happy Day 800 to Cxx!

Happy Day 800 to Lynsey!

Happy Day 800 to GG!

Happy Day 800 to Festie!

Happy Day 800 to Graceb!

Happy Day 800 to Mak!

Happy Day 800 to Paris!

Happy Day 800 to Shout444!

Happy Day 800 to Midwestveggie!

Happy Day 800 to Rah!

Happy Day 800 to Cryssi!

Happy Day 800 to RoseMarie!

Happy Day 800 to Janna!

Happy Day 900 to Haggismcbaggis!

Happy Day 900 to Vanessa!

Happy Day 900 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 900 to Mizgabz!

Happy Day 900 to Sanfransober!

Happy Day 900 to Sarah72!

Happy Day 900 to Aaron!

Happy Day 900 to Jon!

Happy Day 900 to CassieB!

Happy Day 900 to Shelby!

Happy Day 1000 to OtherJosh!

Happy Day 1000 to RunnerMom!

Happy Day 1000 to JLynn!

Happy Day 1000 to Fernie Sobertina!

Happy Day 1000 to Julie-Joy’s Dad!

Happy Day 1000 to Jessi!

Happy Day 1000 to Heike!

Happy Day 1000 to Daybird!

Happy Day 1000 to Allison!

Happy Day 1000 to LolaB!

Happy Day 1000 to Connie!

Happy Day 1000 to Fich!

Happy Day 1100 to Janet!

Happy Day 1100 to Beach_Gurl!

Happy Day 1100 to Terry!

Happy Day 1100 to Denise!

Happy Day 1100 to TheFun4!

Happy Day 1100 to Terence!

Happy Day 1100 to Clear Eyed Girl!

Happy Day 1100 to Hazeleyes!

Happy Day 1100 to Case Study Tim!

Happy Day 1100 to Baby Girl Butterfly!

Happy Day 1100 to Primrose!

Happy Day 1100 to Sadie!

Happy Day 1100 to SignGurl!

Happy Day 1100 to Jeannie Yogini!

Happy Day 1200 to Jenisthesoberist!

Happy Day 1200 to Pam!

Happy Day 1200 to JennyGardenGirl!

Happy Day 1200 to Sharon!

Happy Day 1200 to LD!

Happy Day 1200 to Laurie!

Happy Day 1300 to Original Beth!

Happy Day 1300 to Leah!

Happy Day 1400 to Erica!

Happy Day 1400 to Jen!

Happy Day 1400 to Debra!

Happy Day 1616 to me!

 

Wednesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Calypso!

Happy Day 50 to Lavender!

Happy Day 50 to Allie!

Happy Day 50 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 50 to Hellacious!

Happy Day 50 to Mamahope!

Happy Day 50 to Laurel!

Happy Day 50 to Liz!

Happy Day 50 to Sanna!

Happy Day 50 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 50 to Shelley!

Happy Day 50 to SueW!

Happy Day 50 to Jeans!

Happy Day 50 to Carly!

Happy Day 50 to CCC!

Happy Day 100 to Molly Jones!

Happy Day 100 to April!

Happy Day 100 to Jaded!

Happy Day 100 to terbear!

Happy Day 100 to RachelB!

Happy Day 100 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 100 to AustinHappy!

Happy Day 100 to Macbender1!

Happy Day 100 to frupa63!

Happy Day 100 to latebloomer!

Happy Day 100 to TSilver!

Happy Day 100 to VMD Free!

Happy Day 180 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 180 to SW3Girl!

Happy Day 180 to Indigo50!

Happy Day 180 to Reenie!

Happy Day 180 to Imara!

Happy Day 180 to Tekara!

Happy Day 180 to Oriole!

Happy Day 200 to Conn!

Happy Day 200 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 200 to Purple Robin!

Happy Day 200 to Clearlee!

Happy Day 200 to Toga!

Happy Day 300 to DB!

Happy Day 300 to Franny!

Happy Day 300 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 300 to WildMustang68!

Happy Day 300 to TJ!

Happy Day 300 to SoberInMtl!

Happy Day 300 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 300 to do*it*anyway!

Happy Day 300 to lydster!

Happy Day 300 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 365 to ChellyBelly!

Happy Day 365 to KAB!

Happy Day 365 to StonewallPDS!

Happy Day 365 to Ashley!

Happy Day 365 to Hughie!

Happy Day 400 to Tree!

Happy Day 400 to Lucia!

Happy Day 400 to Moon Alley!

Happy Day 500 to unwindegal!

Happy Day 500 to Q’s Mom!

Happy Day 500 to Kai!

Happy Day 500 to Meraki!

Happy Day 500 to Greenbean!

Happy Day 500 to Heya Monster!

Happy Day 500 to Shorttermnoterm!

Happy Day 600 to Hollers!

Happy Day 600 to Oz!

Happy Day 700 to Southern Magnolia 703!

Happy Day 700 to Rock2015!

Happy Day 700 to Minnieme!

Happy Day 800 to Jacqui!

Happy Day 800 to Petunia!

Happy Day 800 to Dancing Rabbit!

Happy Day 800 to Microlady!

Happy Day 800 to AlexP!

Happy Day 800 to ChefStarr!

Happy Day 800 to Monique!

Happy Day 900 to Weenie!

Happy Day 900 to Via51214!

Happy Day 900 to 1111!

Happy Day 900 to Manda!

Happy Day 900 to Sober Lemon!

Happy Day 900 to PP!

Happy Day 1000 to Hank!

Happy Day 1000 to Aschae!

Happy Day 1000 to Emery!

Happy Day 1000 to Going2pieces!

Happy Day 1000 to Soberp82!

Happy Day 1000 to Blake!

Happy Day 1100 to Jilly Bean!

Happy Day 1100 to Kirst!

Happy Day 1200 to Beckie!

Happy Day 1300 to JM!

Happy Day 1400 to Amy!

Happy Day 1600 to thirteenpointone!