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Would you like to do the 100 day sober challenge?

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  1. Would you like to do the 100 Sober Challenge?
    Here’s the pledge:
    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”
  2. Make a note of the date of your last drink and post a comment here to let us know.
  3. Read the sober blogs (mine and others) every day. Become involved. Post comments on the blogs. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it.
  4. Sign up to get daily sober motivation here.
  5. If you’d like to have a sober penpal (how cool, can’t wait to get to know you!), then sign up for the Sober Jumpstart class. There are three versions of the class — short, audio only, and long. All three versions come with a free sober penpal (me!). You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. I answer every email I receive. And yes, we remain sober penpals after the class is over. For as long as you’d like. For years.


(NOTE: If you HAVE signed up to do the challenge before, then you have a spot and a member number already. And we’re penpals already. Your spot is here. Just email me to restart or to tell me how you’re doing.)

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  1. AlysonA on said:

    My last (bottomless) drink of whiskey was on 11.13.15 (Friday the 13!th) So today is Day 2. Now that I’m a stay at home mom, 2 pm feels the same as 5 pm, and some days 12 pm feels like “why not?” Someone on here said “1 glass is too much, and 6 is not enough.” Word. Also, my off switch has become broken, so moderation doesn’t work for me either. That’s like inviting Wolfie to sit down with me at dinner every night, and white-knuckling it, praying he doesn’t eat me. That’s much harder than never inviting him in in the first place; I’ll remember that when whiskey whispers “just one?” We can do hard things.

  2. Day 1…again. I’ve tried to stop drinking on my own many times but, well, here I am so we see how that ended. I realize now I need support from others. I have told no one in my personal life of my struggles with alcohol, so I am seeking support on the world wide web:-) I have perused some recovery forums in the past but never really connected with anyone– there were just so many people with so many made-up user names that I found it overwhelming to really get to know anyone or establish any real friendships.

    I’ve always been a very independent person who rarely ever asked for help with anything. But I am finally accepting the fact that I cannot do this alone! So I will be absorbing myself online, reading others’ posts here, and on Unpickled (a blog I just discovered today and really feel drawn to now), and anywhere else that I find along the way on my road to recovery:-)

    Good luck to us all!!

  3. Day one. I’m going to do the hundred day challenge just to do something right now. I believe I can find true happiness with being sober and continue on past the challenge. I want to be present, I want to be the best me, I want to be the best mother and wife. I have finally concluded that every season that I finally feel in control of drinking has never lasted for the long run. I Am giving up and I concede to trying to control it. I truly believe now that it is an impossible task. It might work for a week or a month, and make me feel like I have risen above it, but it never lasts. My life is not anywhere near rock bottom, in fact it is quite good, but I am tired of the work I have to do to keep drinking- the day after, all the time spent thinking about drinking-wondering how much I’m missing out on if I were just sober. I am not my best me, I am so much more easily offended by people when I drink and pissed off, I am continually “chasing” something that I know is just a lie anyways. I can see through the lie. Drinking does not make my life more fun…now it’s time to get brave and do something about it- call it out for what it is and take back my precious life. I am excited and am going to fight to not be fearful and call upon my faithful powerful God to help me.

  4. My last drink was on 10/11/15 (my nan’s funeral). I had drank that evening to cope with the fact that I will never see her again. The next day, I woke up feeling awful and even more sad than the day before. I have tried to have a month off from drinking before and have never lasted more than 6 days. I am currently on my 5th day and I’m feeling so proud of myself. I always feel proud of myself around this many days and tend to reward myself with a drink. Then goes the messy slope. I am determined to do it this time. I have a full time job, have just bought my own house and have been in a happy relationship for 7 years. I am 22 years old and, although I binge very rarely, I do consider myself as having an alcohol problem as I feel the need to have a drink every day (even though I do not always give in). Excited to start this adventure (again!)

  5. Day 1. Last drink 15/11/15 for those of us in the southern hemisphere or 11/15/15 everywhere else :) I am rapidly approaching my 50th year so I want to be fit, sober and feeling fabulous before July next year. I feel in the right frame of mind for the 100 day challenge particularly after the recent events in Paris. Life is far too short to keep checking out of it each evening into a bottle of plonk.

  6. Day 1 is today for me 11/16/15. I have tried many times before but am just so tired of the affects of alcohol on my life and psyche. I want to jump into this like I never have before. I so want to do this for me…I have a really hard time being good to myself and don’t really know how. Just for today, I will not drink. I am going to buy flowers for myself after work and take a nap. Pray for me ..

  7. So I am on Day 1. I have written to myself: you can do this, you can do it differently. Things can change and you can feel better. . Then I wrote: I will take care of myself. I will love myself. I will take a bath. I will buy flowers. I will take a walk with the dogs. I will forgive myself. I will go easy on myself. I will love myself some more. I want to be happy and not depressed.

  8. I feel so grateful to have found this 100-day challenge. I’m on day 2. I envy those of you who are 20 days in, 90 days in, and beyond. What strikes me is that there are so many women here who are hurting and struggling. I am hurting and struggling. But nothing has inspired me to stop drinking as much as your blog and the lovely community within it. I’m chronicling my 100-day journey in a blog called theunlitpath.wordpress.com, and I welcome anyone who can relate to the feelings of futility, shame, guilt, and exhaustion that I have after 7 years of binge drinking like an idiot. I’m a 45-year-old wife and mom with no good reason for this behavior other than it’s morphed into a beast of a habit I can’t break. I’m rapid cycling, and it scares the hell out of me. It’s time for this change. Thank you, Belle.

    • Madstonecutter on said:

      Hi P. I’m replying to you because I want you to succeed. I only stumbled on this site tonight because I need to find myself help as well…… I have had countless day 1’s, and never reached out for help. I am raising my son alone who has LD, ADHD and in the Autism spectrum. I want to quit drinking because I know I will feel better and it will help me tackle the issues I have to deal with.
      Also – when I committed to taking responsibility for my son, for me, it was a decision of where is he better off? I think it’s with me – but I need to fulfill the oath I made to myself which is to be the best I can be – so I can help my son be his best – and drinking is my biggest obstacle. Not sure where I was going with this, but I read your post and felt like responding. I know I need to do a 90 nor 100 day, but 2 days a week is where I’m at now. Don’t lose your job or your daughter or your hope.

      My name is Mark – and I wish you well

  9. Yesterday was my day 1. My ex husband showed up at my house after I had had a few drinks and started to threaten to take my daughter. I’ve called in “sick” to work so many times my boss is calling me to talk. I feel lost, I feel helpless.I have a very stressful job, a daughter with special needs and no one to help me. I can’t reach out to anyone in my circle because it is such a small community that I’ll be ostracized.

    • Try this website! Try the 100 day challenge. Breathe 10 deep breaths. Drinking will only make things worse!! We are here for u and I understand your struggles…it’s a bitch! Just think if your daughter ever needs u and u can’t respond. Think about u, u deserve to be sober and be good to yourself, I know it’s hard I’ve been a single mom of two daughters with no child support and a high pressured job. But we are worth it! Hugs and praying for u!

  10. Grateful for this community. Starting 100 day challenge again. Tired of rapid cycling, and pattern of binge drinking. Thanks to everyone for the inspiration and accountability.

  11. On Day 8 – never been here before. I did not drink yesterday and I will certainly not drink today :)

  12. Today is my 39th day, but I just discovered the blog yesterday. I’m so grateful that there is something out there beyond traditional recovery models, because I still don’t know what to call myself. “Alcoholic” doesn’t really work for me. I’m not sure that I’m looking for a label at this point.
    This is the first time I’ve gone this long without drinking in a decade. I’ve made it to about two weeks before. I’m sick of feeling sick. Done with weird body aches and joint pain in the mornings after a long night of drinking. So done with the rare, but frightening, black outs. And most of all, done with masking all of my shit, and not figuring out how to be me without drinking. So far, the hardest thing is being in my own head all day, every day. It’s truly exhausting.

    • Congrats! I’m on Day 13 and I can’t bring myself to place the “label” on myself yet…see..I can’t even type the word! LOL
      The blackouts….oh dear! I’m famous for them. And I hate that!!
      Everything will take time. One day at a time.

      Take care!

  13. Ugh! Today is day one! (AGAIN). So date of last drink is 11.19.15. I went 4 1/2 months earlier this year but cannot seem to focus again so I am signing up for the 100 day challenge again. It has always been difficult for me to ask for help. But today I am drawing from all of the amazing and inspirational people here! Thank you to all for your kindness and strength! I know I will not drink today:)

  14. My last drink for 100 days was a glass of wine last night, in front of an episode of Gilmore Girls. I have an unhealthy relationship with drinking that started 12 years ago, after separating (then divorcing) my husband. I am, truly, tired of thinking about drinking–how much I’ll drink or drank the last night. If I should or shouldn’t. I want to fill my mind with other things. I want to trust myself again. I don’t trust myself anymore because I avoid honoring my emotions. It’s as if I am telling myself, “shut up already” then shove a drink in my mouth. It’s time to do this.

  15. Last had a drink on Wednesday 25/11/15. I don’t drink everyday and stop periodically. I also don’t always drink excessively, but I’m often thinking about drinking or rather affected by it.

    • I would love to do that 100 day challenge. I’m definitely sick and tired of thinking about drinking. It is not helping me at all. It’s really killing me.

  16. Today is day 100 for me. I feel great about it, and I’m here to say you can do it, too! It isn’t that hard. It is freeing.

  17. My last drink was yesterday, November 29, 2015. I the challenge today and feel relieved, yet very scared. I have not gone a day without drinking on many years.

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